When we first meet someone, regardless of the way or medium that
we meet, we are either attracted or not. Attraction, when
pursued, eventually grows into levels of friendship and then may
cross the barriers we build up, to protect ourselves, and grow
into love. Attraction usually involves an instant decision of
like or dislike, based on our own subconscious criteria. If we
meet someone in person, we tend to size them up physically. If
we meet through letters or phone conversation or internet chat,
we tend to size them up, over a longer term, by how well they
converse and how interesting (or complimentary) they are while
we interact with them. It is true that people can act however
they want, be whatever they want to be, over the internet. But
eventually the true person leaks through the cracks and we begin
to see their true self. Moral of the story? It?s best to be your
real self. You may eventually want to meet the person on the
other end of the conversation. On the other hand, when you do
meet the ?real? person on the other end, remember that you have
grown to like that person because of what?s inside their mind
and heart. You have found a potential ?soul mate? who thinks as
you think and feels much the same way that you feel. No one is
perfect. We all have our own flaws and shortcomings. The concept
of finding the ?right? person is good. The concept of finding
the ?perfect? person is improbable and discouraging, because
?perfect? doesn?t exist. The way this person looks, their
physical appearance, isn?t as important as their inner looks, or
soul. What we see is what we get, and hopefully the heart ranks
the highest. We fall in love with someone?s soul, not the shape
or size of their body. And although a certain number of things
can be done to improve physical appearance, that shouldn?t be
our main criteria or requirement for friendship or
companionship. We fall in love with their heart. With their
inner self. With their true being. And that?s what matters most.
About the author:
Bob curtis has been writing articles, short fiction and poetry
for over 30 years. He has been a lay consultant for families and
individuals for a number of years, and is currently the managing
director of People4People.com and the President of Nexus
Publishing in Midvale, Utah.
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