If you suspect that someone near and dear to you is cheating,
there are signs you can look for. A subtle deviation ca triggers
warning bells. Consider purchasing a GPS Vehicle Tracking Device, so you?ll know
exactly where your spouse has been, down to the last mile.
If you really want to know the truth, than you have reason
enough to read on. Some signs that can give away a cheater
include:
- A sudden increase in time away from
home, such as attending new functions, particularly alone. - A
decreased sexual interest in you. - Increased Viagra use.
- Leaves a room to take a phone call or whispers when many
people tend to talk louder on phones, especially cell phones.
- Tends to use the computer alone and is more secretive and
defensive about it. Such as deleting their Web Browser's history
of sites visited or emptying the Recycle/Trash Bin. - Uses the
computer when you are asleep. - Exhibits a compulsive need to
check e-mail, be online or Instant Message someone. - Tilts
the computer monitor away from view when you enter the room.
- Seems to be unusually interested in your schedule.
- Starts doing their own laundry or checks their clothes
carefully. - Cell phone bill goes up or trying to hide it.
- They have unexplained credit card charges or bank receipts.
- Starts buying you guilt gifts such as flowers.
The
cheater knows many of the techniques used by Private
Investigators who specialize in this kind of work. They know to
look for surveillance when traveling to meet their lover. They
know the computer might be monitored. They know that phone
numbers can be traced.
If your partner starts buying
condoms, even though you?re using Birth Control Pills, this is
cause for concern. A
Semen Detection Test Kit, provides indisputable evidence of
their infidelity.
It?s important that you do not give
them any reason to be more cautious or alert. Smart cheaters
will often take a few of these precautions:
- Never gets involved with someone you or your friends know.
- Always checks to see if they are being followed.
- Tries
not to deviate from their usual schedule. - Will make the
affair fit into a normal day to avoid suspicion. - Never
stores phone numbers in their phone, writes them down, or gives
the person they're speaking to a fake name, etc. - Asks
friends to cover for them. - Never makes any calls from the
home phone?your spouse or lover could have a recorder
connected?or cancels Caller-ID and *69 features. - Gets a
pre-paid calling card to use from home or work or with
payphones. - Clear the cell phone call history frequently.
- Never uses a credit card to pay for restaurants or hotels,
EZ-Pass and ATMs, or anything that leaves a trail. - Always
showers or cover up with cologne, etc. before returning home
after a romantic tryst. - When they meet, tells their lover
not to wear cologne or perfume, or wear the same brand as yours.
- Keeps the affair away from places where friends and
co-workers could see them. - They will arrive separately at
clubs or restaurants. - They try to make sure the lover they
are cheating with has as much to lose as they do if their affair
is discovered. - They may carry "proof" of where they were
last night such as matches or leave a receipt around to be
discovered. This is especially true if you are suspicious.
Ask yourself why they are cheating. There are many
possibilities, such as a mid-life crisis, the arrival of a new
baby, or simply boredom, and you should probably review them.
This knowledge will become important if you decide to confront
your cheating spouse. Then again, you may decide to keep this a
secret and use it as grounds for divorce.
Francis Kielb
is a freelance security consultant contracted by competitive
intelligence firms, such as BHE Security, and private
investigators.
About the author:
Amy Grech is the Web Content Editor for BHE Security an
action-oriented, service-based company based in New York City.
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