If you were to sit back for a moment and think about who you
are and what parts make up you, how many would you come up with?
If you were to remember the last time you found yourself at a
stalemate regarding a decision, or a time where you had too many
choices, did you consider your parts were involved?
There are many parts that make up you.
There?s the Musical You, the Friendly You, the Amazing You, the
Genius You, the Calm You, the Peaceful You, and many more parts
that make up who you are ? much like an identity check list:
All round good guy/gal part ? check Uniquely amazing you part ?
check Witty and intelligent part ? check Lovable and charming
part ? check Moody and indecisive part ? who me??? Never?
Selfish and greedy part ? not me! Never? Self opinionated ?
Nope, not me! Never?
We all have wonderful attributes; we also have parts not so
wonderful which we?d rather keep hidden but really, it?s okay to
acknowledge we have both. There?s a part of me that?s greedy. I
can be greedy and thirsty for knowledge. On the flip side I will
give away this knowledge to others. In a nutshell, there?s a
part of me that really wants it and another part that gives it
away.
Sometimes we have infighting between parts because one wants to
do one thing and the other part wants to do the opposite, much
like a tug of war. An example is when you hear yourself or
someone else say ?A part of me would really love to move on but
then again a part of me would rather I stay? or ?There?s a part
of me that loves what money can bring but there?s another part
that says it?s not important?.
Eventually we can become indecisive, apathetic, confused or
frustrated, to name a few. If a win/win negotiation becomes
lose/lose our parts will slowly begin to separate from our true
self.
Imagine for a moment a plump juicy, untouched mandarin. With the
mandarin?s segments still deliciously intact and protected by
its shiny, orange outer skin, it?s whole. Now imagine that these
segments are the mandarin?s parts or aspects if you like. Once
peeled and a segment is broken off it then becomes separate from
its original form. Very much like our parts when they separate.
The difference is we can reclaim ours - the mandarin simply gets
eaten.
Something Fun to Do
If you?ve haven?t given much thought to how many sides of you
there are, maybe you?d like to try the following exercise. You
can do this as a group or as something private and only for you.
Here?s what you do:
* Pencil in approximately one hour of ?Me Time? in your diary
for the weekend, a day off, or after working hours and find
yourself an area where you?ll be undisturbed.
* Get some A4 coloured sheets of paper, coloured
pencils/textas/crayons, scissors, glue, and a large sheet of
white card paper, and anything else you might like to include.
* Get into the Zone by spending some time in quiet contemplation
before you start.
* When you?re ready - write on your coloured sheets of paper the
parts of you that you discover.
Some examples might be:
* Busy Me! Genius Me! Loud Me! Considerate Me! Hormonal Me!
Selfish Me! Masculine/Feminine Me! Creative Me! The Sex
Goddess/God Me! Wicked Me!
* Cut out all the different parts and glue to your large card
paper ? you might like to add stories to it, favourite
quotations and anything you believe is relevant to you.
* When you?ve completed this exercise, step back and notice how
truly unique you are.
About the author:
Michaela is a Transformational Coach, certified practitioner of
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), writer and metaphysician who
is totally committed to helping others create positive and
action oriented changes to their lives. Michaela is the author
of the eBook 10 Colour Meditation Scripts, and publisher of a
monthly e-newsletter called From My Desk.
|
