Is your love relationship smooth? Have the both of you actually
quarreled before? If your answer is yes, then you should be
happy and be glad that it happened. But if your answer is
however a no, then you should be aware of the danger that you
are facing. Hmm? did I make things sound a bit too scary? Ha, it
is not exactly that serious; don?t be scared off by me. Well, I
should believe that the both of you are just, still in the sweet
honeymoon period of your relationship. In life, we encountered a
lot of up and downs. But it is nevertheless, through all these
problems and obstacles that we learn to stand up on our feet
times and times again despite the falls we had, that made us
what we are today. If life were to be so smooth for us, we
wouldn?t have grown and learn to truly appreciate it. The same
goes for love; if a relationship is ever so sweet and smooth, we
wouldn?t have learn to really appreciate and cherish the love
that is between ourselves and our love. It is through the
overcoming of all those quarrels and problems, surviving them
through together that we truly know that we deeply cherish the
love that is between both, strengthening the relationship more
than ever. Be glad that there is quarrel between both. It
actually means that the both have developed another step further
in your relationship. It is only when one is closer to you that
a quarrel will then actually happen. I don?t suppose you will
pick up a quarrel with your partner whom you just started
dating? You be just trying all out to please him or her instead,
wouldn?t you? But do however treat each and every quarrel
seriously, especially when the both of you have just started.
This is the time for you and your partner to further understand
each other more deeply, the time for you to reflect on yourself
and honestly think about the relationship. This is the time for
the relationship to be tested. A test of your love for one
another; whether this relationship is strong enough to withstand
any thunderstorm there may be. Well, a survival never fails to
further strengthen the relationship, truly cherishing each other
ever more. Avoid unnecessary reasoning at the point of a
quarrel. Most of the times it will only make things worse, wait
till both have cooled down. At the end of the day, always make
an effort to find out what actually went wrong. Is it your
fault? Talk to each other nicely, share your unhappiness; let
your partner know how you felt. A softer tone is always more
calming and pleasing to the ears. Your partner will usually be
willing to listen and to share his or her feelings with you too.
Sometimes it is out of too much care for one another that
unwillingly trigger off a quarrel between both? Remember, nobody
wanted any quarrel. If you are at fault, please don?t be a
stubborn donkey, you jolly well apologize and seek for your
partner?s forgiveness. A word of sorry isn?t really that hard to
say out? There is nothing ashamed to feel of, especially when
with your love? Admit your fault, a sincere apology would always
be pleasing to the ears; most of the time, harmony it will
bring. Nonetheless, if your partner were to apologize to you,
you graciously accept it. Why start another quarrel when you
could end it? Well, there shouldn?t be any overnight grudges
between couples. Give each other a good hug. ?I love you dear, I
am really so sorry to have hurt you, please forgive me?? Now
isn?t that such a sweet ending? It is usually through so that
you understand each other better, cherishing each other even
dearly. Remember, love is a two-way communication. It takes two
happy persons, a happy you and your love to complete the
equation. About The Author: Rick Valens Staff Writer for
http://www.loveletterbox.com Love Relationship Discussion Forum
Currently also freelance writer for http://www.ecemetery.org
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