Copyright 2005 Arina Nikitina I want to warn you: this article
can cause some discomfort, indignation and sense of insult in
minds of people who are not ready to be successful. If you are
not ready to face the truth, please don't read this article,
because I don't want to hurt your feelings for nothing. If
you've decided to keep reading answer a couple of questions
first. How old are you? What have you done in all these years
that you can be proud of? What have you done to become
successful and happy person? And now let me ask you just one
last question - WHY aren't you successful and happy yet? In my
long practice with people I've heard so many different answers
that if I?d decide to write them all down I could publish a 500
page book. I'd call it "The guide for people who want to be
miserable and stay that way forever". Think about it... Who is
responsible for you not being happy and successful? Not your
neighbors, not your wife, not the circumstances, not the economy
or the weather. YOU ARE. It is YOUR life, YOUR choices and YOUR
responsibility. I know it is very hard to accept, because we are
so used to blame everyone and everything for our unhappiness and
our failures. We don't want to take responsibility for our
actions. Furthermore, we?re afraid of the responsibility because
if something goes wrong we will have no one to blame for it, but
ourselves. This includes the level of your achievements, the
quality of your relationships with other people, the state of
your physical health, your debts or your lack of self
discipline. When you refuse to accept responsibility for the
situation, you lose control over it. You will feel depressed and
frustrated because you can't change the circumstances, you can't
change the economy and you can't change other people, you can
only change yourself. That change will give you great benefits.
Instead of a life victim, you will become a successful,
self-confident person. You will make life what you want it to
be. Responsibility for the actions and self-esteem is the only
small but crucial difference between a dismal failure and an
impressive success. It doesn't take long to go from failure to
success. All it takes is an attitude adjustment. You can start
making small changes in your life right this moment. Don't wait
any longer, because until you don?t do something about your
life, nothing is ever going to change. For example, if you had a
fight with someone, say "I'm sorry I overreacted. I shouldn't
have yelled at you". Don't say "You said this or did that. You
made me lose my temper!" If you are late for work, say "I'm
sorry, I overslept. I'll make sure it won't happen again". Don't
say "My alarm clock didn't ring" or "Traffic was really bad". If
you screw up, admit it. Take the responsibility for your actions
instead of saying "Mistakes were made". Learn from your
mistakes. Analyze what kind of changes you can make right now to
achieve your goals in future. Important thing is to constantly
move forward. Don't wait for the opportunity to appear at your
door step or the planets align the right way. Create your own
opportunities.
About the author:
Arina Nikitina is the owner of www.RecipesForYourSuccess.com
website where she shares proven tips and techniques on how to
lead happy and fulfilling life you deserve. Visit:
http://www.recipesforyoursuccess.com
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