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G: Hi Michael. Today's topic is relationships. In your hundreds
of seminars and TeleClasses, what are people saying about their
relationships or lack of them? What kind of complaints do you
most often hear?
M: I'd like to start by saying that the amount of people on our
planet who are single continue to surprise me. Having said that,
the thing I hear people saying most often about attracting their
ideal mate is that it's HARD to do. I hear over and over again
that there are no 'good' men or women left, or that people keep
attracting *&#@* kinds of dates! People complain that all the
'good' prospects are already taken or that their dating
experiences are disastrous. Of course, if they knew what I knew
they'd know exactly WHY they are getting the kinds of
relationships or dating experiences they are getting. You can
hear it in the words they use when they comment! Half-way
through my seminars, these people get their "Ahh-Hah!" moment!
They learn that NOT getting their ideal relationship or partner
has nothing to do with the availability of 'good' men or women.
They learn that it's all about the vibes they've been sending!
G: What is missing from the traditional match-making and online
dating services?
M: These services are mostly concerned with what physical
attributes you are most attracted to: tall, dark, handsome,
busty, pretty, slender etc. Law of Attraction matches people by
their vibrations. An ideal dating service would help people
attract their perfect match by helping them to begin within
themselves. In other words, whatever vibration a person would
want their ideal mate to have, they would begin by creating THAT
vibration first within themselves so that Law of Attraction can
match it!
G: What can you suggest single folks do to help them attract
their ideal partner?
M: Ironically, knowing what you didn't like about a past partner
or a past date is very useful to you. You can use this
information to help you get clarity about the kind of mate you
do want. For example, if you don't want someone who works too
much-what do you want? If you don't want someone who is not
adventurous-what do you want? If you don't want someone who is
not interested in dancing, or who is not romantic, or not a good
listener etc-what do you want?
Understanding what you don't want will help you 'birth' more
clarity about what you do want and your 'birthed' clarity
becomes your new, clear desire! Notice too, how you feel when
you get clear about something. It feels good when we say, "Oh!
That's exactly what I'd like!" This new clarity has now become
your desire and that is the first step to manifesting your ideal
mate. In my book, Law of Attraction, The Science of Attracting
More of What you Want and Less of What You Don't, I talk about
the three step process for Deliberate Attraction. The first step
is being able to identify your desire. Now you know how to use
the contrast to do just that!
G: What's happening if your desire is not manifesting?
M: The first thing to know is that you're not truly offering a
pure vibration of the way you want it to be then Law of
Attraction cannot respond to it. In other words, you are saying
that you want THIS kind of person but you are sending out a vibe
that is different than your desire. One way to check what
vibration you are offering is to observe what you ARE receiving
in your life. It's always a perfect match to whatever you are
offering vibrationally. Secondly, most people tend to be
scorekeepers and they tend to keep score about what isn't
happening. When you do that, you are of course, giving what
isn't happening more energy, attention and focus!
G: Michael, what can people do to correct that?
M: Every time you catch yourself observing or thinking about
what you don't want, take your attention away from it! The
easiest way to do this is to say to yourself, "So what DO I
want?" It sounds simple and it is! When you change your
observation from what you don't want to what you do want, the
vibration changes. When you change your vibration, the results
will change too!
Next, for those of you who are scorekeepers, begin to notice
when you are observing the LACK of attracting your ideal mate.
Stop scorekeeping what you are NOT attracting and you'll stop
giving it your attention, energy and focus. Your job is to look
for the parts of a relationship or the characteristics of a date
that ARE matching your desire list and give those your
attention! Your vibration will change and Law of Attraction will
bring you more of the same!
G: What should people do when they just get home from a
disastrous date?
M: Don't tell anyone! Don't email your friends about it! Don't
talk about it with your girlfriends! Don't write about it in
your journal. Remember that Law of Attraction doesn't know if
you are remembering something or complaining about it, or
worrying about it. Law of Attraction will simply bring you more
of whatever it is you are focusing on!
So, come home from your date?build a list of all the things that
you didn't like about your dating experience and convert each
item of contrast on your list into another thing that you
clearly want.
And then, with the converted list (your clarity list) add it to
the list of the things that you would like in an ideal date! Now
you have a more complete list and THAT'S what you'll want to
give your attention!
If it didn't feel good on the first date, it usually doesn't get
better, so simply move on to the next date - adding to your list
each time. You'll know when you've found your ideal mate by how
it feels!
G: Thanks Michael! We'll look forward to more of your expert
answers in next month's edition of MICHAEL'S MAILBOX.
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About the author:
Michael Losier, a Law of Attraction Trainer and author, supports
people in understanding and practicing the Art of Deliberate
Attraction, so they can have more of what they want and less of
what they don't. Michael has been applying the principles of Law
of Attraction for many years. He facilitates a number of
in-person Law of Attraction seminars as well as Teleseminars to
a worldwide. visit www.LawOfAttractionBook.com.
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