?What is my calling?? Do any of us really have complete clarity
about our life calling? Even those of us with the knowingness we
must teach, write or sing are often asking, ?What direction am I
to go, now??
Richard Bolles, author of ?What Color is My Parachute?? and the
granddaddy of the employment industry says, when people are
asked what they would like to do they often respond with ?I
don?t know.? Bolles maintains this is because people interpret
the question to be ?What am I going to do with the rest of my
life??
This question is too big, too daunting, immobilizing people.
Instead, remind yourself that the career journey is much like
driving a car in the fog. Sign posts arrive at the crossroads
and we can reach our destination despite the fog. Instead of
worrying ourselves with not having the answer to our career/path
questions (that perhaps, can only be revealed as we grow into
them) what if we simply looked for the slender threads?
Slender Threads at Work
As Robert Johnson, says in ?Balancing Heaven and Earth,? slender
threads are about ?being in a particular place at just the right
time, meeting someone who steers you in an unforeseen direction,
the unexpected appearance of work or money or inspiration just
when they are most needed? Whether called fate, destiny or the
hand of God, slender threads are at work? weaving the remarkable
tapestry of our lives.?
Tuesday morning I wrote in my journal, ?If we had the money to
retire right now with all of our needs abundantly met for life;
what would I be doing with my free time? How would I enjoy
contributing??
That very night I ?happened? across an interview with Alanis
Morissette on Much Music. Strangely enough, I watch little TV,
dislike what I?ve glimpsed of Much Music, and I do not listen to
Alanis Morissette?s music. Yet, quickly captured by Alanis?s
words, I watched the one hour interview with her which helped
clarify my longing for more direction in my career. Ah, slender
threads at work!
Transparent and Authentic
Alanis attributed her enormous success to her willingness to be
as transparent and authentic as she possibly can. By freely
expressing herself, her truths ? however frightening and
humbling ? Alanis said she gives people the courage to freely
express their selves.
By accepting all aspects of her self including ?the good and the
bad,? Alanis spoke of how she has become more integrated, whole,
and authentic. She is comfortable in her own skin. Being whole ?
with all of our short-falls is so much more freeing than working
hard to always look good. Through allowing her self to be wholly
alive and authentic, Alanis spoke of learning to love the human
condition and having compassion for us all.
Closely living this transparent, authenticity resonates deeply
in my soul. It is here we are our most vulnerable, compassionate
and real. It is here we learn to trust who we are. What a
precious reminder for all of us to follow our own authentic self
and inner truth.
You Know Your Truth
When Alanis was asked how she comes up with song-writing ideas,
she said she rereads her personal journals to find her truth and
direction. We can all reconnect with our truth, our calling and
direction through revisiting our journals. If you do not write a
journal now would be good time to start.
Alanis inspired me to re-read my journal and the ?theme? of my
life was readily apparent. More slender threads at work. My
constant quest for a deeper understanding of myself, the human
condition and of God is always there. Clearly, this lifeblood of
mine must be the foundation of all that I do.
By looking deeply within at our own truths we can uncover our
direction. We know the truth of what we would love to do. We
need to nurture the expression of our desire rather than
squelching it or adamantly sticking with, ?I don?t know.? And
yes, sometimes it does help to talk to the right person who can
reconnect you with what you already know.
Trust that you do know what you want to do ? even if it does not
seem readily apparent. That?s O.K. Just begin by giving yourself
the freedom to express your inner desires, dreams and fears by
journaling everyday. Without judgment, allow yourself to write
and think about what you enjoy doing, or would enjoy doing, if
you had the money, time, education, experience,
fill-in-the-blank.
Through these simple acts of trusting ourselves, listening to
ourselves, and looking for the slender threads weaving our lives
we nurture the relationship with our deeper self. Herein, we
learn to author our own lives and live with authenticity and
inner authority.
About the author:
Teresa Proudlove is the publisher/editor of www.yourlifework.com:
support and inspiration for your work and life. Teresa has been
inspiring, supporting, and mentoring over 3000 people upon their
lifework path for fourteen years, leading workshops and
authoring many internationally published articles.
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